Things that are creepy:
- Persistence after someone has said NO or STOP, or has made it clear they are not interested in your advances
- Invalidating someone’s “no”
- Only stopping your advances when somebody informs you they are taken (you are telling this person their “no” alone is not enough, which means you do not respect them)
- Asking “why” when somebody rejects your advances
- Asking “why not” when somebody refuses to give you their phone number
tw: rape, rape denialism
Help spread the truth:
source for the stats in the image:
Department of Justice criminal victimization survey:
World Health Organization’s data on violence and causes of death
Three cowardly and ideological fascists advocate sex-selective censorship : http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/an-open-letter-to-faceboo_1_b_3307394.html
Yes, because taking three universities (which is different from a college) and averaging them together is accurate. /sarcasm Think a little. -Brianna
Someone challenged Brianna’s world outlook, so being snarky is totally the best response instead of some simple investigation.
Here is the one out of four study:
Keep in mind that rape is HIGHLY underreported especially on a college campus. Even more so for male victims.
If there is so much rape on campuses then why aren’t women reporting it? Seriously? Why?
And I only reblogged this mainly because I thought the persons response was pretty cheap and shitty.
• embarrassment and shame,
• fear of publicity,
• fear of reprisal from assailant,
• fear of social isolation from the assailant’s friends,
• fear that the police will not believe them,
• fear that the prosecutor will not believe them or will
not bring charges,
• self-blame for drinking or using drugs before the rape,
• self-blame for being alone with the assailant, perhaps in
one’s own or the assailant’s residence,
• mistrust of the campus judicial system, and
• fear that their family will find out.
I was raped while I was a student. It really fucking sucked, but reporting it and the aftermath sucked MORE. I honestly was traumatized more by the admin response, rather than felt better about what happened to me. Administrators don’t know how to handle it. Knowing what I know now from my experience and from working with other campus survivors, this is why people hesitate to report campus rape.
- Many administrators are not trained on rape culture and trauma
- A lot of schools would rather protect the schools reputation than punish a rapist
- Reporting someone you know as your rapist (and/or someone popular on campus) will open you to retaliation/gossip on campus
- A lot of people don’t want to “ruin” the lives of their rapist(s)
- A lot of people struggle with identifying their experience as rape because we’re not educated about it - a lot of the time we only think about the “Stranger in the alleyway”phenomenon
- We don’t trust the police (esp as a woman of colour, I can say that)
- We know how shitty the court system is when it comes to rape cases anyway
- Going through the process of reporting will trigger a long process of interviews, judicial cases
- A lot of people have “less than perfect” histories and don’t want their past being revealed and their name dragged through the mud
- While juggling a difficult semester, the last thing you want to do is to add another thing on your place (going through the judicial process)
- People talk: you hear how shitty the school is at addressing rape, so then you dont want to go through a futile process.
- Nothing ever fucking happens to the rapist.*
*clearly this isn’t always the case, but this happens an overwhemingly majority of the time
I need feminism beacause my mom spent her entire life raise her children and deal with the chores to the detriment of studies, passions or social life.
I need feminism because my dad still doesn’t care, is always at work, and I don’t even know him.